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walk by. On the other hand, some women feel most feminine when they are with other women.

Sometimes women associate femininity with certain places. For example, being in a beauty parlor and having their hair done. Or being in a lingerie department and being surrounded by all that lace and silk.

Clothes may not make the woman, but they certainly can make her feel very much one, especially "private" clothes. Some women like lacy underwear because it's such a female thing after all they just don't put ruffles on boxer shorts. Other women like high heels, because they are for women only they like the pitch the heels give their body, which makes them more aware of their body.

For a great many women, experiencing their most intense feelings of femininity depends not so much on external surround- ings or feminine gear as it does on the performance of activities traditionally associated with the female role, such as nuturing, healing, sympathizing and helping.

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Strength, vulnerability, sexuality, motherhood, selflessness, generosity a woman may feel her femininity in alliance with any or all of these qualities. And for the vast majority of women it is a wonderful way to feel.

Is it any wonder then, that we, as TVs, also have different feelings that we associate with our being "feminine?" When we start to express our "second self", we express what to ourselves is feminine or femininity. So we find that femininity is many different things to each of us.

The title of this article is "Me and It". The "it" is our fem- ininity, our concept of what femininity is.

I think all of us can recall to some extent our first experience

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